Barack Obama

Father's Day Address

delivered 21 June 2010

 

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Hello!  Hello, everybody!  Thank you so much.  Thank you. Thank you very much.  Everybody, please have a seat.  Thank you very much.  Thank you.  Let me just begin by making a few acknowledgements.  First of all, I've got some outstanding fathers here in the first row who arenít seeing their kids enough because I'm working them all the time -- three members of my Cabinet:  Secretary of the Treasury Tim Geithner --  Attorney General Eric Holder -- and Secretary of Commerce Gary Locke are here.

In addition, we've got one of my heroes and I'm sure one of yours, somebody whose shoulders I stand on and allowed me to become President of the United States, and that's Congressman from the great state of Georgia, John Lewis, is here.  A fierce advocate on behalf of the District of Columbia, Congresswoman Eleanor Holmes Norton is here.

I want to acknowledge the Mayor of Washington, D.C., Adrian Fenty in the house.  The executive director of ARC, Edmund Fleet, is here.  I want to thank all the panel discussion participants who are involved in todayís events, and I want to thank Nurney Mason -- a Washington, D.C. icon.  Nurney founded Masonís Barbershop in 1961.  That's the year I was born.  Itís still going strong.  He is here with his children and his grandchildren.  Where is he?  There he is right there.  I could use a little trim.

One year ago this week, we kicked off a national conversation on fatherhood and personal responsibility, and members of our administration fanned out all across the country to hear from fathers and families about the challenges that they face.  Secretary Arne Duncan, our Secretary of Education, held a discussion in New Hampshire about the link between fatherhood and educational achievement.  Gary Locke talked to fathers in California about balancing the needs of their families with the demands of their jobs.  Secretary Shinseki, of Veterans Affairs, held a town hall for military and veteran dads in North Carolina.  And Attorney General Holder traveled to Georgia for a forum about fathers in our criminal justice system. 

And in each of these places, each of these leaders posed a simple question:  How can we as a nation -- not just the government, but businesses and community groups and concerned citizens -- how can we all come together to help fathers meet their responsibilities to our families and communities?

And we did this because we know the vital role fathers play in the lives of our children.  Fathers are our first teachers and coaches -- or in my house, assistant teachers and assistant coaches -- (laughter) -- to mom.  But theyíre our mentors, our role models.  They show us by the example they set the kind of people they want us to become. 

But we also know that what too many fathers being absent means -- too many fathers missing from too many homes, missing from too many lives.  We know that when fathers abandon their responsibilities, thereís harm done to those kids.  We know that children who grow up without a father are more likely to live in poverty.  They're more likely to drop out of school.  They're more likely to wind up in prison.  Theyíre more likely to abuse drugs and alcohol.  Theyíre more likely to run away from home.  Theyíre more likely to become teenage parents themselves.

And I say all this as someone who grew up without a father in my own life.  He left my family when I was two years old.  And while I was lucky to have a wonderful mother and loving grandparents who poured everything they had into me and my sister, I still felt the weight of that absence.  Itís something that leaves a hole in a childís life that no government can fill. 

So we can talk all we want here in Washington about issues like education and health care and crime; we can build good schools; we can put money into creating good jobs; we can do everything we can to keep our streets safe -- but government canít keep our kids from looking for trouble on those streets.   Government canít force a kid to pick up a book or make sure that the homework gets done.  Government canít be there day in, day out, to provide discipline and guidance and the love that it takes to raise a child.  Thatís our job as fathers, as mothers, as guardians for our children.

The fact is, itís easy to become a father, technically -- any guy can do that.  Itís hard to live up to the lifelong responsibilities that come with fatherhood.  And itís a challenge even in good times, when our families are doing well.  Itís especially difficult when times are tough, families are straining just to keep everything together. 

In a time of war, many of our military families are stretched thin, with fathers doing multiple tours of duty far away from their children.  In difficult economic times, a lot of fathers are worried about whether theyíre going to be able to keep their job, or find a job, or whether theyíll be able to pay the bills and give their children the kinds of opportunities that if they didnít have them themselves, at least they wished for their children.  And there are a lot of men who are out of work and wrestling with the shame and frustration that comes when you feel like you canít be the kind of provider you want to be for the people that you love. 

But hereís the key message I think all of us want to send today to fathers all across the country:  Our children donít need us to be superheroes.  They donít need us to be perfect.  They do need us to be present.  They need us to show up and give it our best shot, no matter what else is going on in our lives.  They need us to show them -- not just with words, but with deeds -- that they, those kids, are always our first priority.

Those family meals, afternoons in the park, bedtime stories; the encouragement we give, the questions we answer, the limits we set, the example we set of persistence in the face of difficulty and hardship -- those things add up over time, and they shape a childís character, build their core, teach them to trust in life and to enter into it with confidence and with hope and with determination.  And thatís something theyíll always carry with them:  that love that we show not with money, or fame, or spectacular feats, but through small daily acts -- the love we show and that we earn by being present in the lives of our children.

Now, unfortunately, the way we talk about fatherhood in this country doesnít always reinforce these truths.  When we talk about issues like child care and work-family balance, we call them ďwomenís issuesĒ and ďmothersí issues.Ē  Too often when we talk about fatherhood and personal responsibility, we talk about it in political terms, in terms of left and right, conservative/liberal, instead of whatís right and whatís wrong.  And when we do that, weíve gotten off track.  So I think itís time for a new conversation around fatherhood in this country.

We can all agree that weíve got too many mothers out there forced to do everything all by themselves.  Theyíre doing a heroic job, often under trying circumstances.  They deserve a lot of credit for that.  But they shouldnít have to do it alone.  The work of raising our children is the most important job in this country, and itís all of our responsibilities -- mothers and fathers.

Now, I canít legislate fatherhood -- I canít force anybody to love a child.  But what we can do is send a clear message to our fathers that there is no excuse for failing to meet their obligations.  What we can do is make it easier for fathers who make responsible choices and harder for those who avoid those choices.  What we can do is come together and support fathers who are willing to step up and be good partners and parents and providers. 

And thatís why today weíre launching the next phase of our work to promote responsible fatherhood -- a new, nationwide Fatherhood and Mentoring Initiative.  This is a call to action with cities and states, with individuals and organizations across the country -- from the NFL Players Association to the National PTA, to everyday moms and dads -- weíre raising awareness about responsible fatherhood and working to re-engage absent fathers with their families. 

As part of this effort, weíve proposed a new and expanded Fatherhood, Marriage and Families Innovation Fund.  And we plan to seek out and support the very best, most successful initiatives in our states and communities -- those that are offering services like job training, or parenting skills classes, domestic violence prevention -- all which help provide the kind of network of support for men, particularly those in vulnerable communities. 

Weíre also going to help dads who get caught up -- we want to make sure that they're caught up on child support payments and that we re-engage them in their childrenís lives.  Weíre going to support efforts to build healthy relationships between parents as well -- because we know that children benefit not just from loving mothers and loving fathers, but from strong and loving marriages as well.

Weíre also launching a new transitional jobs initiative for ex-offenders and low-income, non-custodial fathers -- because these are men who often face serious barriers to finding work and keeping work.  Weíll help them develop the skills and experience they need to move into full-time, long-term employment, so they can meet their child support obligations and help provide for their families.

And under Eric Holderís direction, our Justice Department is planning to create its first ďFathering Re-Entry CourtĒ for ex-offender dads -- and to help replicate this program in courts across the country.  The idea here is very simple:  to reach fathers right as theyíre leaving the criminal justice system and connect them immediately to the employment and services they need to start making their child support payments and reconnecting them with their families. 

This program was inspired by leaders like Peter Spokes, who was the executive director of the National Center for Fathering -- a good friend to many in our administration, all of whom were deeply saddened by his recent passing.  And we are honored to have Peterís wife, Barbara, with us here today.  Whereís Barbara?  I just saw her earlier.  There she is.  Thank you.

So these initiatives are a good start.  But ultimately, we know that the decision to be a good father -- thatís up to us, each of us, as individuals.  Itís one that men across this country are making every single day -- attending those school assemblies; parent-teacher conferences; coaching soccer, Little League; scrimping and saving, and working that extra shift so that their children can go to college.  And plenty of fathers -- and men who arenít fathers as well -- are stepping up to serve as mentors and tutors and big brothers and foster parents to young people who donít have any responsible adult in their lives.   

Even when we give it our best efforts, there will still be plenty of days of struggle and heartache when we donít quite measure up -- talking to the men here now.  Even with all the good fortune and support Michelle and I have had in our lives, Iíve made plenty of mistakes as a parent.  Iíve lost count of all the times when the demands of work have taken me from the duties of fatherhood.  And I know Iíve missed out on moments in my daughtersí lives that Iíll never get back, and thatís a loss thatís hard to accept. 

But I also know the feeling that one author described when she wrote that ďto have a childÖis to decide forever to have your heart go walking around outside your body.Ē  Think about that -- to have a child is to have your heart walking around outside your body.

Iím sure a lot of fathers here know that same memory that I have, of driving home with Michelle and Malia right after she was born, going about 10 miles an hour.  Your emotions swinging between unadulterated joy and sheer terror.  And I made a pledge that day that I would do everything I could to give my daughter what I never had -- that if I could be anything in life, I would be a good father.

And like a lot of the men here, since that time Iíve found thereís nothing else in my life that compares to the pleasures I take in spending time with my girls.  Nothing else comes close to the pride I feel in their achievement and the satisfaction I get in watching them grow into strong, confident young women.

Over the course of my life, I have been an attorney, Iíve been a professor, Iíve been a state senator, Iíve been a U.S. senator -- and I currently am serving as President of the United States.  But I can say without hesitation that the most challenging, most fulfilling, most important job I will have during my time on this Earth is to be Sasha and Maliaís dad.

So you donít need a fancy degree for that.  You donít need a lot of money for that.  No matter what doubts we may feel, what difficulties we may face, we all have to remember being a father -- itís not just an obligation and a responsibility; it is a privilege and a blessing, one that we all have to embrace as individuals and as a nation.

So, Happy Fatherís Day, everybody.  God bless you.  God bless the United States of America.


Book/CDs by Michael E. Eidenmuller, Published by McGraw-Hill (2008)

Text & Audio Source: WhiteHouse.gov

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